Asking the BIG QUESTIONS



Take a leaf from the life book of a child-- they are asking questions constantly, and as a result, they grow rapidly.

What happens to us adults? Well, possibly we begin to think we have all the answers. There is great comfort in thinking that. Security. But, as we talked about before, comfort and security are also great stoppers to personal and business growth.

All growth happens in grappling with the unknown, the mysterious, the untried, the strange...

And if you ask BIG questions (not just questions like "Why ever did you do that?" or "Just who do you think you are?" and "Has anyone seen where I left my glasses?") you will be drawn into greater and fresher possibilities for your life and future.

Questions are POWERFUL-- did you know that your mind can not ignore a question?

Whether you choose to answer the question or not, it will remain there-- provoking new thoughts.

Answers shut down the dialogue. They stop the need for any further thought.

Questions open the door to inquiry, which leads to discovery, which leads to new growth.

A Great Question is:
  • open-ended-- no easy answer-- a really great question keeps you asking it for a lifetime.
  • connective-- it brings you into communication with the world-- any question asked with the genuine spirit of inquiry, or curiosity, will draw in others who have grappled, or are grappling, with similar quests
  • asked in the genuine spirit of inquiry, a question will lead to new knowledge, other questions, new ways of acting, new perspectives, and new confidence.

    For several years I worked with women making transitions from violence to self-determining lives. I recall one woman, who, as she progressed in her journey, became more and more joyfully creative, always bringing to our groups stories of a new art project or something that she had invented to create something else. One day she came in with a huge crochet hook she had fashioned from an old chair leg so that she could do a speedy project with thick wool in an afternoon. We were all in awe. She shared that the question that drove her into all of her life and art experiences was, "How hard can it be?"

    What BIG questions are you asking yourself?

    Big Questions bring more juice and fun into our lives-- we recognize that, "yeah, the old dog can learn new tricks". Big Questions form the basis of all co-operative efforts, and show the way to better performance.

    Most exciting to me is the idea that asking yourself the hard, Big Questions can lead to helping us define our life purpose and give direction to our lives.

    Here are a few suggestions for you to engage your curiosity:
    **Focus on what you DON'T KNOW
    **Find something that takes you into an area you know absolutely nothing about (for me, that would include a lot of technical areas, such as how the combustion engine works)
    **Read, watch documentaries about the 'unknown subject'
    **Go somewhere you've never visited
    **DRIVE somewhere you have never driven
    **Start a conversation with someone you would not ordinarily speak with
    **Start a discussion group about something you know little or nothing about
    **Approach all new subjects with a spirit of genuine inquiry (vs. looking for opportunities to ask questions that you "know the answer to" so that you can convince others of your point of view)
    **Challenge yourself to keep the dialogue going

    Would you ever consider working in a field that you have heard a lot of distain for and discrimination about, but about which you really have little knowledge? Have you ever considered doing a thorough evaluation of a business opportunity-- giving yourself all the time you need to think the offer through before feeling compelled to sign on? When was the last time you seriously, independently, made a decision for yourself? I challenge you to take a look (with a "genuine spirit of inquiry") at the business opportunity I offer at www.positivelyvibrant.me Why not?
    **You want to read a sage little book that expands on the idea of growth using Big Questions? Dan Sullivan has coached the likes of Jack Canfield (the successful "Chicken Soup" entrepreneur-author) and has a succinct brilliance that will give you an entirely new perspective on personal and business growth:
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