As mentioned in the blog on building confidence, fear often impels great growth if it is harnessed... I am speaking of fears like the fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of what others might think of you, etc.
To Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway (r)
will likely require some 'comfort breaks' as Dan Sullivan calls the necessary rest stops to offset the stress of the fear that you are using to grow.
Remember, the comfort breaks are just brief interludes and not meant to break the wonderful momentum you are establishing as you grow beyond your fears and bugaboos.
Here is a lovely exercise that you might want to use to take a little interior holiday from stress... from The Mozart Effect: Tapping the Power of Music to Heal the Body, Strengthen the Mind, and Unlock the Creative Spirit by Don Campbell. Read the following first and then do the exercise.
1. Give yourself a relaxed afternoon or evening to explore some music. A suggestion from online is this youtube selection of Faure's Pavane or any preferred classical string pieces (online or off) of about 6 to 10 minutes in length. (For the first exercise, swivel around facing away from the video portion of the Pavane, not to be tempted to have it translate the music for you).
2. Dim the lights. Have a notepad and pen close at hand. Stretch out comfortably on a couch or just close your eyes and slouch back comfy in your computer chair (if that's possible).
3. Close your eyes. Don't give your mind any directions-- just listen to the music.
4. After the piece is complete, take your notepad up and record how you felt when the piece began (no right or wrong answers here, by the way). How did your body feel as the music progressed? Did any images enter your mind? Did you feel any emotions? Did particular events in your life flash into your head? Did you 'space out'?
5. Now, turn the lights back up, sit more upright in a comfortable chair, and gaze at a spot on the wall in front of you while you play the piece again. Keep your eyes glued to the spot on the wall throughout.
6. When the music ends, write down your experiences this time. How was it different from the first go-round? What was most interesting for you in sitting with your eyes wide open? What feelings can you identify?
7. Now play the music for a third time. If you chose an orchestral piece (such as the Pavane), stand. If you chose a piano piece, sit on the edge of a straight chair. As the music begins, see yourself as either the soloist or the conductor of the piece. Conduct (orchestral, standing) or play (piano, solo, sitting) with feeling, skill, and whatever interpretation you want to bring to it (but don't ham it up). You may close your eyes or keep them open. Move your body and arms intuitively.
8. Write down your impressions when the music ends. Did you learn anything new about the music this time? Did you learn anything you didn't know about the instrument you were "playing"?
9. Close your eyes and become aware of your body for a few minutes. Are there differences from now and from when you started the exercise? Any changes in breathing, heartbeat, temperature? How about your mood? Brighter? Sadder? Are you more relaxed?
Notice how light, posture and other variables subtly affect your listening as well.
Now that you have had your Comfort Break, take another small action to step outside of your comfort zone!
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