Cha Cha Action!


I just read something that gave me an idea for these blog posts-- something with a little less "head-knowledge" and a little more action.

When we start off the New Year with great intentions for change, we sometimes confuse the "intent" with the actual "change". We can spend a lot of time talking and reading about changes we want to make, but not actually make the changes themselves.

That's me.

Is that you?

Well, get off your computer chair right now and have a dance lesson... just turn up your speakers and follow along with the people on this particular video. Repeat. If you spend 5 minutes a day learning the cha cha over this next week I am willing to bet that you will want to do something a lot more active than just reading a book (I mean here BESIDES reading a book-- because I still believe that reading is motivating and necessary for gaining knowledge and insights.)

Cha Cha Cha!


"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

This Year I Will...


The following is from M.J. Ryan, author of the best-selling book This Year I Will…: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True

You’ve been doing well and then something threw a monkey wrench into your formula for success. Make no mistake–setbacks suck. You’re right back where you started. Actually it’s worse. Because you’ve set off that part of your mind that whispers, “See, you can’t do this. Just give up. Give in. It’s not worth even trying.” This is a truly dangerous moment. Because if we listen to this voice, not only do we not change this time, but we decrease the possibility of ever changing because we lose faith in ourselves.

That’s why, when circumstances throw us off course as they inevitably will, it’s time for the 4 A’s:

1. Assess the current situation.

2. Adjust what needs to be done.

3. “Admire yourself,” in the words of fitness guru Bob Greene, “for being strong enough to start again.”

4. Act quickly to implement your new course of action.
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"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

Trees and Stars


Florida State University has put up a very interesting page on their site. It begins as a view of the Milky Way Galaxy viewed from a distance of 10 million light years and then Zooms in towards Earth in powers of ten. 10 million, to one million, to 100,000 light years and then it finally reaches a large Oak tree

Once you click on the site, the software does all the work. Sit back and enjoy. You can play it forward and backward to be amazed over and over. At the end it says AUTO....click on that and review the process in reverse!

http://micro.magnet.fsu.edu/primer/java/scienceopticsu/powersof10/index.html

Hey, you're a Super Star! Come and see my galaxy at http://positivelyvibrant.me

Blocking Self-Sabotage


Well, we are 2/3 of the way through January-- are you continuing to vigorously read your goals out loud? How about bouncing off to the gym with the same skip in your step that you started with at the beginning of the year?

Don't feel too bad if you find yourself losing some steam. It's natural to wane in enthusiasm, especially when the date for achieving your goals seem so far off.

But before you give up altogether (and then really, justifiably feel bad), how about doing a check on whether or not your are sabotaging yourself (for many of us...) again.

Here are some things to do to avoid self-sabotage:
  • Develop an awareness of HOW you self-sabotage, particularly around getting what you really want for yourself. Psychologist, Dr. Kevin Hogan, states that "Because self-sabotage is unconscious, no one is aware of it when they are actually engaging in it. The benefit of being able to be in check is being in charge. When the unconscious mind is quelled, then the conscious mind can move forward and achieve."
  • Dig in Deeper. Allow your passion for what you plan to achieve-- for what you truly desire-- drown out any attempts at self-sabotage.
  • Be Self-forgiving. Cut yourself some slack. I recently had the opportunity to counsel a good friend to be as kind and forgiving to herself as she is to everyone else who makes a mistake. Forgive yourself any slip-ups, and then be your own Best Coach and tell yourself to get back into the saddle. As Zig Ziglar says, "Failure is an event, not a person". Every day is a new opportunity to start fresh (man, I'm full of these lol).
  • Affirm yourself. Wise woman and seasoned Toastmaster, Susan Guild, says "Affirmations have to be coupled with an inner belief." Believe every positive word you tell yourself. Of course, be realistic. Don't state, "I am the world's best salsa dancer and will wow them at my neice's wedding July 12th," if you know that you will be having hip surgery the month before the wedding. You may want to focus on other aspects of your goal, and make your affirmations accordingly, "I have so much fun learning to dance salsa and love how trim I am becoming as I dance."
  • Commit the benefits of achieving a particular goal to memory. Remember how enthused you were when you came up with that goal? If you didn't make a list of benefits back at the start of January, how about now? What are the benefits of losing 20 pounds by June 3rd? Go crazy listing them all. Now repeat them daily along with your goal, and in time you WILL have committed the benefits to memory so that you can trot them out when you are feeling weak or discouraged. Aim for having the benefits so firmly lodged in your mind that they play back like that piece you watched and listened to on Youtube those eight times last night. (I'm talking from personal experience with Boz Skaggs' cover of "Harbor Lights"-- the song that was Number 1 on the Hit Parade the day I was born... can't get it out of my head lately. lol) Memorizing benefits could be a useful new habit to develop to prevent slipping off the path you have decided to travel.
  • Journal your Progress. Behavioral experts believe that keeping track of your actions not only keeps you accountable to yourself, but gives you a log of your journey. Have a little notebook around that you use just for writing down the times you self-sabotage AND the times you have NOT given into the temptation to jeopardize the route to accomplishing what it is you desire.
  • Create a special reminder of your desire to attain your Goal free of damaging behaviors. Visual cues (appealing photos of you when you did weigh your ideal weight, a 'dream' or 'vision board') or other sensory reminders ('touchstones' if you like-- could even be a smooth river stone in your jacket pocket that you can hold and remind yourself of your goal) often help to keep us steady during a time when we feel less than reliably willing to stay on the rails. (**See another useful 'cue' idea at the bottom of this post)
  • Enlist all 'other' strengths in your life. Helpful: Prayer, meditation, EFT, BSFF and other methods of 'clearing' the static that diverts us from our desired course.
    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    **An example for altering chronic negative thoughts and statements would be to wear an elastic band around your wrist and snap it when you find yourself thinking or saying something negative (eg., unkind, unjust, judgmental, untrue, hurtful, malicious, cynical, pessimistic, etc.) Check out these classy adult wrist bands that can be printed up with helpful reminders or slogans on your computer.
    ***Rainbow image is courtesy of photographer Dawn Allynn at www.dawnallynn.com
  • Setting Goals for Others

    Click to go to Garrison Photos
    Sometimes we feel that we can help other people
    -- particularly our mates, our employees, our teenaged kids-- achieve their goals.

    Read: THEIR goals. If they have goals, then they are well on their way to achieving those goals if they write them down, detail them, and all of the other points that you already know about from the last
    couple of blog posts. If they don't have goals, you can help them with the process.

    But... YOU can't set goals for THEM.
    An example is: when you set a goal for your child to go to college you are working on something that is impossible for YOU to achieve. However, if you plant the seeds of that goal in your children's minds, talk about it regularly, and encourage them in their studies and commitments, the odds that will attend college go up dramatically.

    SIMILARLY, IN A HOME BUSINESS,
    you can not set a goal to change your downline/team members. However, when you change yourself, chances increase substantially that they will change also.

    If you are enthusiastic and have a system set up that is easily copy-able, you will be well on your way to motivating your team
    members to strive for success. Other ways that you can be a positive influence in your team's business vision include:

    *communicating on a regular basis-- using email and phone calls to let them know about upcoming events, to arrange for brainstorming, and to encourage and congratulate.

    *keeping on your own forward track--
    cultivating positivity and developing yourself in your personal goals and your leadership strengths. As a successful business person you become a role model for anyone you bring into your business. (Refer to the final asterisked tip below)

    *carefully duplicating the effective methods used by the successful business leaders in your organization. Why re-invent the wheel? You don't have to be a cookie-cutter business builder-- we all have different personalities and gifts, for example-- but just copying the successful methods used by people with credibility (success and integrity) will ensure your success AND increase the likelihood of your team members doing what the see you do in turn. If you, a successful business leader, set goals, then it is highly likely that they will also set goals.

    *"In addition to reading ten pages of a motivational or inspirational book each day... listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... if you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's "the Slight Edge"." ~Jeff Olsen,
    author of The Slight Edge.

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    It is my desire that you will find just the right information
    in these weekly posts to reinforce what is working for you OR to help you choose to make changes that WILL produce success for you.

    Make every day positively vibrant!

    ~Cynthia
    Home Diva at
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    **Today's wisdom was drawn from Jeff Olsen, and Zig Ziglar "Day in the Park" photo courtesy of Garrison Photos.

    Raising a Team


    "You can have everything you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want." ~Zig Ziglar's Golden Rule

    A Nebraska farmer, Herman Ostry, had a barn floor that was under 29 inches of water
    every Spring because of a rising creek. His son Mike devised a lattice work of steel tubing and nailed, bolted, and welded it on the inside and the outside of the barn. Hundreds of handles were attached. After just one practice lift, 344 volunteers slowly walked the 17,000 pound barn up a slight hill, each supporting less than 50 pounds. In just three minutes, the barn was on its new foundation.

    This is a pretty amazing example of what can be accomplished when a team of laser-focused, willing, enthusiastic people come together to help each other out.

    I belong to an organization with a similar ethic-- people coming together to help others know a life of positivity, fellowship and abundance. I am very grateful to have a supplier with an owner who appreciates what value independent business builders bring to his company and recognizes that his company prospers as he assists me and others in prospering our businesses. If you want to find out how you too can be part of this organization in your own business, click here. I'm looking forward to meeting you!

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    **Thank you to Amy Jacobs for the photo of the barn stored at StockXpert.

    The Golden Rule Still Rules


    Over 50 years ago, the founder of the company that provides research, development and product to my business, declared that "the Golden Rule" was the basis for all of his business interactions. Recently a business builder on my team asked me what the Golden Rule was. I had a moment there where I wondered if perhaps what came to me so quickly was indeed the Golden Rule... but, yes, I was able to answer her that the Christian Golden Rule is the much quoted (or it was much quoted as I was growing up) "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you". It can be found in the Bible in the Gospel of Luke, Chapter 10, Verse 31.

    The Golden Rule is also called "the ethic of reciprocity"
    or the "norm of reciprocity". It is a moral code or universal principle that is present in the major religions and world philosophies. It is a touchstone of trustworthiness. If you know that someone lives by the Golden Rule or one of its cognates, and you see the fruits of this professed belief, in their actions and their words, then you will generally welcome a positive association with that person.

    In Brahmanism: "This is the sum of duty: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done unto you."

    In Buddhism:
    "Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful."

    In Confusianism: "Do not unto others what you would not have them do unto you.

    In Hinduism: "The true role of life is to guard and do by the things of others as they do on their own."

    In Islam: "No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself."

    In Taoism: "Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain and your neighbor's loss as your own loss."

    In Judaism: "Whatever is hurtful to yourself do not to your fellow man. This is the whole of the law, the rest is merely a commentary."

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    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    I'm a Spiritual-Self-Knowing-Self-Improver... What are You?

    In the spirit of the season (i.e., the 'goal-setting' New Year) I took the following 43-item Personality quiz and discovered that I am a Spiritual, Self-knowing, Self-Improver. Apparently only 1% of other test-takers also have similar personalities based on this survey. Please take the survey (click here) and get back to me with what your results were, okay? Maybe I'm basing this whole blog on only a 1% target group-- what a shame that would be! (You will have to use the return arrow to come back & leave comments.) I really truly appreciate your willingness to share your results and any comments!

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Tips for a Sparkling Life in 2009


    A friend sent this to me by email-- these tips really rock!

    01. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.

    02. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.

    03. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.

    04. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'

    05. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

    06. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2008.

    07. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer. They
    provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

    08. Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

    09. Dream more while you are awake.

    10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

    11. Drink green tea and plenty of water.. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

    12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

    13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

    14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

    15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

    16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

    17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.

    18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

    19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

    20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

    21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

    22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

    23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

    24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

    25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'

    26. Forgive everyone for everything.

    27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

    28. Faith in God's presence helps you face everything.

    29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

    30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

    31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

    32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

    33. The best is yet to come.

    34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

    35. Do the right thing!

    36. Call your family often.

    37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.


    38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Dream - Plan- Set Goals- Achieve!!


    Hi there Sparkling One! Yes, you-- I can see your inner shimmer-- I know that you have dreams (okay, maybe you HAD dreams)...

    Do you have desires? You're not sure?

    But there is something gnawing at your life
    ... you know that you are meant for better things than just sitting about watching paint dry-- waiting for the kids to grow up-- waiting for that big win-- waiting for the pounds to drop off-- waiting for the perfect business to fall into your lap--

    How about taking a little action?
    Sign up for the Positively Vibrant Tips ezine and start to make things happen in your life... one baby step in front of the other...


    *Photo is courtesy of Chris Watk at StockXpert.

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"