Who am I when Nobody's looking?

This is a photo of my granddaughter Angelika when she was nine months old, singing and laughing as she is pushed on a swing by her Mama. Can you remember what it was like to be a happy, carefree little child? Can you remember what it was like to dream and to see yourself as able to grow up to do anything or be anyone you decided upon?

I greatly admire actress-entrepreneur, Suzanne Somers. Some of you will remember her as the cute blond air-head on the sit-com "Three's Company". When her role ended there Suzanne dealt with a lot of negative feelings, and went through some other unpleasant challenges in her life. She also made a fortune with her infomercials promoting thigh-master and other fitness equipment. And she wrote books and continued to act.

I'm currently reading her daily readings book called 365 Ways to Change Your Life. Her first day's "thought" suggests that I (you) "remember who I was as a child with all my dreams and fantasties, when the world and life in general were not filled with fear and limitations, before the wounding began and I allowed others and outside influences to convince me I couldn't do it... That memory will stay with me always and give me the freedom to start my journey toward my authentic self."

"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"



"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

Mondays can be Miracles!


The video above is of a Google Authors interview with Matthew Emerzian and Kelly Bozza, the people who put together the book, Every Monday Matters: 52 Ways To Make a Difference -- and the book has launched a movement.

The purpose of
Every Monday Matters has nothing to do with politics but it has everything to do with getting people involved in taking small steps, every week over an entire year. The idea that jumps off the page is that the lives of both the reader and the world around them will be altered by this book in a small way for an entire year.
"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

Positively Vibrant Again!


This is a "get real" sort of blog today. Lately I have been posting a number of blogs that contain either cute-sy 'forwards' from my emails, or someone else's youtube contribution. I choose whatever I post for its positive, motivational impact, but today I want to talk a little more about myself in that context.

I had a tough day yesterday. I have the second cold of the season and sometimes find my self-talk is accusatory and berating, as in "I thought you were so healthy! What is the deal here?"

So, I started the day with that sort of head-cast:
snarky and whiney. Then I ran into some similar situations with one of my business builders.

Late in the afternoon I was tired and cranky. My sponsor responded to an email question I posed with questions about my competence, or so I heard her response through my angry, pouting filter.

But, I am a trained "nice person". I am also "coachable". I talked myself into making some corrections to wording in my non-pulling newspaper ads using her suggestions. I paid a little too much attention to the interior rant that included really classic (childish) stuff like: "Why didn't she tell me this in the first place when we were training?" "I doubt that this will even work-- I don't even believe in these products."

Later in the evening I reviewed the new ad wording with my husband
and he agreed that it sounded better. But I was still whiney and feeling hard-done-by. I treated him to that not-so-nice part of me.

I woke up around 4 a.m., wide-awake and still somewhat morose, but less so.
I did some hard thinking and some praying. One of my thoughts was "I can do my usual passive-aggressive 'nice' act and just do what someone else tells me to, or I can make a serious choice to try something different that someone else has suggested with the attitude that this sounds like a good way to go... that this is the fruit of someone who has my best interests at heart, someone who has walked this road to success before I got off the bus here. (so to speak).

I went back to sleep after this. I woke quite refreshed and positive around 7:30 am. I felt resolved about a few things that I had still felt unsure about in the wee hours. One of my realizations was: "I CAN choose to do something different that will work" And I CAN stop doing a few things that get in the way of my ascent to success. What are some of the things that get in the way? Too much time on Facebook and Twitter. Letting my mind go down the slippery negative slope whenever I am challenged with a question that appears to be "a criticism". Lots of other stuff, too, but I'll be easy on me here. lol

THE JOYFUL PAY-OUT


I performed my morning's ablutions with a much lighter heart than I had had for a week or so. I came downstairs and was greeted by my little dog who loves me whether I'm a nasty bag or a doting Lady Bountiful.

There on my computer keyboard was a piece of real mail
that my husband had picked up from the mailbox during a late-night walk with the dog. The envelope contained an unexpected affiliate commission check (I actually thought I had received that payment ages ago, but I guess not). Wow, the seed money for some more ads!

Off we went for a walk in the beautiful warm, dry morning (two days of rain preceded this blog). Our dog just loves it when the two of us take a walk with her. She sometimes bounds ahead when we get to the leash-free zone, and then quickly returns to bask in the family togetherness (or that is how we see her lol).

When I went to make our morning smoothie I didn't find any frozen berries in the kitchen freezer and checked the garage where our freezer-proper lives. I was amazed when my eyes lit upon a plump bag of frozen grapes (from our own arbor). They are organic and wonderful-- I thought we had consumed them ages ago (and we would have, had I known they were there!) So I made an absolutely heaven-sent smoothie.

And as I gazed out the window above the kitchen sink, what did I see but a burgeoning patch of purple kale
growing up thick and hearty! Last year I so missed our winter kale, and this winter, even though we had tons of snow that stayed longer than ever before in written history on the Island, there thrives great perennial, hardy clump of vegetation that is my favorite green in the world!

To top off the morning's blessings, someone sent me some excellent crockpot curry chickpea recipes-- I modified the recipes to use what ingredients I prefer/have handy, and I have an absolutely scrumptuous lunch ready to eat right now! You can check out the recipe here.

Thank you God for all the blessings-- and for restoring balance in my life!

"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

The Brain Chemistry of Belief


This video shows an interview with flamboyant brain scientist, Dr.Candace Pert. How strong are our minds? Can we actually change things about us and our 'destiny' through our beliefs? Watch the interview (click above on the video) and find out!

Part 2 of "Medical Miracles" with Dr. Candace Pert
"In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

Secrets of Dreaming


Sleep is one of the most mysterious of all human activities. Exactly what happens during sleep is still not completely understood. By studying brain wave patterns, sleep researchers have identified four separate stages in a normal period of sleep. Stage 1 begins when we first fall asleep. Stage 1 is light sleep. Muscles relax and the heart slows down in stage 1. During stage 2,the heart rate increases. Stage 2 sleep is called REM sleep because of the rapid eye movements that occur during this stage. The autonomic nervous system is active in REM sleep, causing rapid breathing
and increased stomach acid secretion. Stage 2 is the period when we dream. During deep sleep (stages 3 and 4), no dreaming occurs. In a normal sleep period, a person cycles from stage 1 to stage 4 in about 90 minutes. Waking after one full sleep cycle is complete is common among the elderly and small children.

Here is an older video, the first in a series on the physiology of 'dreaming'. Very interesting. Watching it made me conscious of the importance of good nutrition and getting enough rest-- not to get to a state of un-health where psychotropic drugs are prescribed, and, if you do find yourself there, to take a look at what you can do to reclaim your health and ability to relax and rest properly.

Here are the other videos in the series:
  • Part 2- The Secrets of Sleep
  • Part 3- The Secrets of Sleep
  • Part 4- The Secrets of Sleep
  • Part 5- The Secrets of Sleep

  • "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Achieving Your Childhood Dreams: The Head Fake


    You have probably seen this Youtube video already but it is well-worth seeing again (and again and again).

    If you were lucky enough to have a teacher or mentor who made the process of learning a JOY, then you will understand why 500+ people turned out for Randy Pausch's last lecture.

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Gentleness Self Control Respect


    The gentleness and self control symbolized in this video is astonishing. If incompatible animals can display such attributes, what about us?
    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Positive Inner Peace



    If you can start the day without caffeine,

    If
    you can get going without pep pills,

    If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,

    If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,

    If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,

    If
    you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time,

    If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,

    If you can resist treating a rich friend better than a poor friend,

    If you can conquer tension without medical help,

    If you can relax without liquor,

    If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,



    ....Then You Are Probably The Family Dog!



    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    The Gratitude Attitude of Patrick Henry Hughes



    Patrick Henry Hughes was born with no eyes, and a tightening of the joints which left him crippled for life. However, as a child, he was fitted with artificial eyes and placed in a wheelchair. Before his first birthday, he discovered the piano. His mom said, "I could hit any note on the piano, and within one or two tries, he'd get it." By his second birthday, he was playing requests (You Are My Sunshine, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star). His father was ecstatic. "We might not play baseball, but we can play music together."

    Today, Patrick is a junior at the University of Louisville. His father attends classes with him and he's made nearly all A's, with the exception of 3 B's He's also a part of the 214 member marching band. You read it right...the marching band! He's a blind, wheelchair-bound trumpet player; and he and his father do it together. They attend all the band practices and the half-time performance in front of thousands. His father rolls and rotates his son around the field to the cheers of Patrick's fans. In order to attend Patrick's classes and every band practice, his father works the graveyard shift at UPS. Patrick said..."My dad's my hero."


    The video above gives you a glimpse into the life of this young man, and his amazing musical talent. What is even more amazing is his attitude toward life. He doesn't see himself as being constrained in blessing or being blessed-- in fact, he sees himself as being appointed to share his wonderfully uplifting gift, and to meet throngs of admiring people who will go away from his performances to meditate upon their own particular giftedness.

    Take your ability to recognize the many gifts and blessings in your life and fill every day with your gratitude. You will be transformed. This world will be changed.

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    What are my Heart Desires?


    The easiest way to identify what our heart desires is to look closely at the feelings that come up for us when we think about the subject of desire. Do you feel at peace when picking up your journal or creatively tweaked when logging into Blogger? Does time spent with your family send shivers of joy up your spine? What feelings surface when you pursue what makes your heart rise and swoop? True joy and happiness comes when we regularly do the positive activities that we most love. Take an overview of your life right now. Engage in the activities that make you feel alive, bring healthy pleasure, and maintain balance.

    **The photo above is of the second prayer shawl I knit for a friend. I love doing these prayer shawls.. I pray through the knitting and know that the person I give it to will probably pray while she wears it, and will feel loved and blessed.

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    What's Missing from the Secret?



    Barely 3 Years After The Revolutionary Film “The Secret”, America & The World Faces Its Worst Financial Crisis in Decades
    Is the Law of Attraction Just Hype?
    Why – if the Law of Attraction is being used by millions – did America just face its worst job crisis since 1974, and a crumbling economy?
    The 11 Forgotten Laws That Make The Law of Attraction An Unbreakable Force
    Bob Proctor – one of the key figures in “The Secret”- believes that the Law of Attraction is incomplete, and for the first time reveals the 11 Forgotten Laws that will finally uncover the Law’s true potential.
    “This Is Highly Recommended Without Exception”

    Find out more about the forgotten laws-- go here.
    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"

    Gap in my Life


    Hello there Sparkling one! I know that I have neglected my blogger duties here of late, but I have a great explanation for the lapse for anyone who wonders if any of my chronic positivity actually works-- I am delightfully, happily busy with my on-line business and have attracted a warm, inspired/inspiring team (still room for more of course)

    I am so very pleased with my home business,
    and for quite another reason during the last couple of days: I bit into a frozen confection and broke off a crown on a front tooth-- yes, I am so very fortunate not to have to go to work with a gap in the front of my mouth. As it was (I say was because I have since acquired a temporary crown)I just asked my lovely trainees to expect some Sylvester-the-Puddy-Cat spitting when I talked. They kindly denied that that was the case.

    I got to experience the best of 'cutting edge' dentistry this morning... laser, a warm barley bag-pillow under my neck, a warm-right-out-of-the-dryer blanket over my shivery (nervous) arms, a TV in the ceiling... felt more like a day at the Spa... okay, a day at the Spa with an annoying gag reflex.

    "In addition to reading ten pages a day of a motivational or inspirational book...listen to a self-improvement CD for at least 15 minutes every day... If you spend that time listening to educational and self-improvement material, you'll have the equivalent of a Ph.D. on any subject you choose in just a few years. That's the Slight Edge." ~Jeff Olson, author of "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life"